Oh man, where do I begin?
I have so much rummaging through my head right now. I don't know if it's from what blew in from the crazy "A" wind storm we had on Monday (hence the blown hair in the pictures) or if it's due to something we call life. The main culprit that is causing the whirlwind in my head is something I like to call, "The Over Thinking Woman" syndrome.
Do you suffer from it? I think there are a few of us that already joined the club/group. Feel free to sign up in the comment section below.
I mean, I even went back and forth on posting this outfit. When Ross saw me he looked at me funny (insert me over thinking). I asked if he thought it was "cute", he responded with "it's different". In male terms this means it's not cute. Oh well, I went with my gut, wore it, took pictures and now it's posted here for all the world to see. Now I am thinking, "What do you think about it?" When does all this thinking end?
It doesn't just stop with a simple outfit post for a blog. It goes deeper.
I am an over analyzer. I evaluate EVERYTHING. I run every possible scenario through my crazy head. Why did he say this? Why didn't she say that? Should I do this? What will happen if I don't do that? It's a non-stop occurrence. It can drive a person to mix up a rum and diet coke...in moderation of course.
The thing is, I typically always go with my instincts. Are they always right? Heck no, but are they usually close to the bulls eye? The answer is yes. If there is one thing I am REALLY good at, it's sensing situations. I can read people like a book. I can almost always predict outcomes. It just get vibes...good and bad.
You might be thinking, "Wow, this is kinda cool. I wish I could have this sort of sense of about people and life in general." Well, folks, I am here to tell you, NO, YOU DON'T. It sucks.
Wanna know why? Because it involves something that I just mentioned a few seconds ago...OVER THINKING.
It's almost as if I focus on a single situation SO much that my "brewing" brings things to real fruition.. Does that even make sense? I don't know. I am just telling you how I feel.
Ross, my mom and several friends seem to have one thing in common, that's telling me to chill. Chill? What does that mean? I am not wired to just sit back and "chill".
If there is something bothering me, I want to hash out the issue immediately. I can't stop thinking about it or let it go if it's not brought to the forefront the moment it starts to get to me. That is how the good Lord created me. And He knows that I wish He made me slightly in the opposite direction. But guess, what? He didn't and there is a reason. Don't know why He chose me for the job, but He did. I have learned to live with it the best I can.
Okay, I am really starting to ramble now. Geesh.
The moral of the story, if you will, is that I know that most women out there DO over think situations, scenarios, life's what ifs.
"Why did he/she do that?"
"Was that comment on her blog post aimed at me?"
"Why didn't I get invited to that party?"
"Why hasn't he/she called me back?"
"Did they think what I said was rude or judgmental?"
"Does this dress make my butt look big?"
"Why did they unfriend me on Facebook or unfollower me on Twitter?"
"Why was their text message so short?"
"Did I just screw up that interview? Why didn't I answer the question another way?"
"OMG. I made a complete fool out of myself last night. Does everyone think I am crazy?"
"My child doesn't do this or that. Do people think I have zero parenting skills?"
"Why won't they talk to me?"
"What if I do 'this' and fail miserably?"
"Should I stay at my dead end job, or do something that I really love?"
"I made HUGE mistake. Will people forget and forgive me?"
Sidenote: Examples above are NOT all personal experiences; just scenarios
Have you asked yourself any of these questions? I would bet my life that you have been in at least one of these situations and asked yourself the same exact thing.
You know what? That is okay. It's a slice of humanity and IF we didn't critique what life throws at us we wouldn't be human. Or at least a human with a heart and soul.
Truth is, life sucks sometimes. We all go through seasons, change and growth. One minute all is fine and dandy and then you blink your eye and all hell breaks loose.
It's all in about how you deal with it. Some may wipe their hands and walk away. Move onto to something else. Not let it bother them. Not give two shizzes.
Others will choose to analyze the heck out of the situation, ask a million questions, push buttons and go the added mile to get their answer. Rethink. Re-evaluate. Recreate events. Put waaaaaaay to much thought into a particular incident.
At the end of the day, we handle "life" in our own way. That's what makes life interesting.
But I will say, go with your gut. It is a pretty brilliant little organ. It might not always mean that the ending turns out how you expected, but I least you did what you thought was right at the time.
If it didn't turn out as expected, pick yourself up, lean on the people who take care of you and move onto over thinking the next thing that comes your way. Kidding!
Did this resonate with any of you? Or am I the Lone Ranger? Okay, I am doing it again. I am just gonna let your comments speak for themselves.
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100% true to herself. It's one of the million things I adore about Kelly.
So what's the
meaning behind her blog name? Let me sum it up for you, it's called being real, natural, embracing yourself and loving who you are, regardless of your flaws.
If you don't already know, Kelly came up with, in my opinion, one of the BEST blog ideas ever. It's called the
Messy Project. It's has been a HUGE success and a genius way to showcase fashion for all walks of life. She personally picks out one item every month. Sends it to four other bloggers (plus gets one for herself) and then they all style the same piece on the same day and blog about. I actually participated in the project back in
November and sported the same shorts that Kelly is wearing below.
And I must admit, I am a tad bit envious of how Kelly can rock just about any hair color known to man. We'll just call it
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